As I’ve mentioned before, my wife works at Trent University in the communications department. One of the perks of her job is that she gets to meet all of the famous people who visit the university. And since I’m her hubby, I usually get to tag along to these events, which typically consist of a dinner followed by a speaking or reading of some sort.
Last night the university’s guest was award-winning Canadian writer Joseph Boyden, author of the short story collection Born With A Tooth, Three Day Road, and his most recent book, Through Black Spruce. Joseph was in town with his wife, Amanda Boyden, who is also a novelist, to promote their latest books.
Although I’m a fan of Joseph Boyden’s work, I wasn’t planning on attending the dinner/reading. I had spent the day at work in meetings and training, and I was extremely tired. I knew I wouldn’t be in the right headspace to properly enjoy an evening with an author, even one of my favourites,
So I stayed home and relaxed, made a couple of grilled-cheese sandwiches, and poked a stick at my novel-in-progress. Around 9 p.m. Kathryn called and told me that she, Joseph, Amanda, and a few others were going to the Olde Stone, a downtown brewery/pub, for a couple of drinks. Did I want to come along?
I said no thanks. I was still feeling pretty bushed, I was already in my comfy pants, and I had to work the next day. My wife told me it was only going to be a small group and I’d actually get to talk to Boyden, and did I really want to pass up this opportunity? Apparently yes.
So Kathryn hung up and I sat there for about three minutes. Give me some credit. I was really freakin’ tired. Then I realized she was right. I might never get this opportunity again. I didn’t want to meet Joseph Boyden so I could ask him about finding an agent or get him to read my manuscript. I wanted to meet him because I’m a huge fan of his work. I didn’t have any intention of telling him that I was a writer.
Long story short, I called Kat back and told her I was in. She came back to the house and we drove down to the Olde Stone. The place was packed so we ended up going to the restaurant next door, Hot Belly Mamas. I told Kathryn explicitly not to introduce me as a writer, as I felt it would seem like I was fishing for attention. Kat said she wouldn’t, and then her boss, sitting on my other side, promptly says, “Oh, Joseph, have you met Kathryn’s husband Ian. He’s a writer and he’s sold something like thirty short stories.”
Ahhh…
Despite that, Joseph and his wife seemed genuinely impressed, and while it was not the kind of introduction I would have preferred, it did help break the ice and we ended spending a great deal of time talking about writing. Joseph told me about his upcoming appearance on Matt Galloway’s show on the CBC, and how he had been asked to pick a few songs that they would be playing during his interview. I asked what songs he picked and he mentioned that one of them was a track off the latest album by the Tragically Hip. As a fairly big Hip fan myself, I asked which one he had chosen and we ended up talking about the band. Turned out Joseph is good friends with Gord Downie, the band’s leader and songwriter. Joseph, who lives in New Orleans, mentioned that he gets up to Toronto every now and again and sometimes visits with Gord. He said the next time he was in the city, he’d let me know and he’d introduce me to him. I said, Um, okay. Then he asked if the Hip ever come through Peterborough. I said, Yes, they were here touring their latest album about a year and a half ago. Joseph says, Okay, well, if they come back again, let me know and I’ll be sure to get you some tickets, and I’ll introduce you to the band. I said, Um, okay.
I have to admit that I was still pretty tired from my long day at work. And then at some point in the evening the shock of meeting one of my favourite Canadian writers set in. And then he tells me he’s friends with the lead singer of one of my favourite bands, and then offers to introduce me to him. It was all a bit overwhelming.
It’s finally started to sink in now, but last night it was so surreal that I wasn’t even sure it was actually happening (the beer might have played a part in that, too). A part of me felt like I wasn’t really there, that I had never called Kathryn back and I had spent the evening at home with my grilled-cheese sandwiches and comfy pants. Thankfullly I was there and I had a great time.
I’m so glad my wife prodded me into coming out, and that I — eventually — decided to go.
That’s why they call it the better half, folks. Living proof.
- Currently reading: The Speed Queen, by Stewart O'Nan